But now it's my turn. As we all have noticed, it is the season for weddings and babies. In my office space, questions have been bouncing around about both.
"What does it mean if I was invited to a bridal shower, but not to the wedding?"
I can't believe this actually happened, and yet, it has happened to me as well. All I can say is "How Tacky!" It means she does not want to pay for your plate at the reception, but wants that Mr. Coffee on her registry. (Unfortunately, the woman who asked this question decided to go to the shower anyway. For all you lovely people reading, this is called "enabling" and really must be stopped. Enablers are the reason greedy people like this bride feel they can get away with their faux pas.) She's using you for a gift. Don't go to the shower. Don't feel obligated to send a gift. Just respectfully decline.
"There is a woman who recently gave birth who works at my office. We were all really happy for her and her husband, until she started using the lunch room as a breast pumping closet. The office has multiple bathrooms she could use but instead she sits in front of the vending machines, making it very uncomfortable for anyone trying to eat their sandwich or get a diet Coke. Should I confront her? What should I say?"
Myself being pregnant, I applaud this mother for her good health choices for her baby. However you are correct, hogging the lunch room is unacceptable, especially if you work in a coed office, which you probably do. Don't confront her, that's not your job (unless you are a supervisor). Go to your manager/supervisor and tell them the situation. Explain (though I'm sure you won't have to do much of it) how uncomfortable it is for you and your coworkers. There is no reason she must stop, just simply move to a more private place. And please, remember to be kind to her, it must be very hard to go to work and leave one's new baby for eight hours everyday.